Insights and practical help to begin the work of building a great marriage.
Whether your marriage lacks intimacy, or your daily communication has whittled down to basic, logistical discussions, there’s help and hope for you here on the Build Your Marriage Blog. Marriage Authors and Couples’ Retreat Speakers Heidi and Brad Mitchell share their lessons learned — and the ones they’re still learning — after 40 years of marriage and a combined 35 years of pastoral experience. Learn about how you can start building a great marriage right now.
Has your spouse ever assumed the worst of you? Have you ever assumed the worst of your spouse? Hardly a marriage escapes this happening at some point, but rarely do spouses choose to reverse the trend of negative assumptions and replace them with assuming the best.
If you don’t pray for your spouse, who will? We readily talk to our spouse and about our spouse to others. But we often miss the opportunity to effect the greatest impact by talking to God on their behalf.
Your marriage is under attack. Even when things are going well, when romance is high and communication is flowing, there is an assault being planned.
When was the last time you gave your spouse a handwritten love note? Texts, emails, and audio texts don’t count here—our focus is using pen and paper to write a romantic note to your mate.
Go ahead…smile! How often do you smile in a day? If you are an average adult, it’s about 20 times a day. If you are an exceptionally happy adult, your teeth may show 40-50 times a day.
Go into any group of men and women and ask them, “Who was the spiritual leader in your home growing up?” The majority of people will answer, “My mom.”
“It’s not MY fault—YOU…” and so the argument revs up as blame is passed. It’s nothing new in marriage. In fact, blame goes all the way back to the Garden of Eden.
In our work with couples, we see faltering and failing marriages because one mate has chosen to seek “greener grass” with someone else.
In 1957 the two couples pictured above said their vows before God and man committing to persevere in marriage and remain fully committed to their spouse.