We love weddings. Recently we attended the wedding of one of our friends’ son, Peter, and his fiance, Kristen.
Marriage
We want everyone with in-laws to have the healthiest relationship possible with them. Last week we began by listing the first four of nine axioms, or truths, for in-law relationships.
John and Luann, Bill and Marilyn—what do these four people have in common? You guessed it—they are our parents.
As a successful college football coach, Bill McCartney rode the wave of accolades from years of hard work. In the process, however, his family was left in his wake. He went to church, but was inattentive to the spirit of his wife.
We believe in the sacredness of marriage. The marriage union in our society is treated casually and is increasingly diluted by cultural standards and laws.
“We just don’t seem to connect. We’re nice to each other. We talk about the day, the kids, our work. We do projects around the house, go out with friends and attend church…”
In the history of the couples with whom we’ve worked, and in our own marriage, the health and vitality of the marital relationship rises and falls on how central this one perspective is in a couple’s marriage.
A runner focuses ahead in a race, anticipating the finish line. A golfer anticipates where the ball is going. Businesses have plans by which they operate for the future.
This isn’t a pleasant topic to write about, but if each of us addresses this with a focused, dogged commitment it can transform our marriages.
How often do the two of you get away for at least one night—just the two of you? We believe taking exclusive time away can be life-giving and inject your marriage with renewed connection and intimacy.